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[Terrible1989]

Thank you so much guys, really god bless you all. Im going to pm you all to talk. Not one of you had to reply to me and im overwhelmed at all of you that have. Its so greatly appreciated and im forever grateful. I have been so tempted to try and contact her today because i just cant accept it. I am a good catholic lad and i really just wanted to settle down with her and live my life as best i could. ive still been going to work ( where i am now ) but im only there in body not soul. tbh guys i dnt really have any friends. all the friends i had where idiots and i fell away from them and as far as im aware they still are idiotic. Im just so deeply saddned that i cant even find the words to explain. I have absolutely nobody apart from you guys on here to talk to and thats why im most grateful. I once took a walk up to a forest and was going to attempt to do something id probably regret last year because we had quite a bad fall out and i knew guys were all over her when she went on holiday. she sounds like a bad girl but in alot of ways shes an absolute gem. and gorgeous too. she kind of looks like that Frankie Sandford haha. but she was comfertable with all my family and i would have never got serious with her in that way if i didnt think she was going to be the one.
ive decided to put the gloves back on i stopped boxing for a year there the last i fought i won a very one sided UD at light-welter ive since put on 2 stone im now 12 but im not fat at all. i was kind of like a paul williams at light welter because im just about 6ft wish i had williams talent though haha.when i fight next im going to go up to welter and see what happens. first ive got a stone and a half to come off. ill be going back into full training on sunday. ill need luck haha.
i just need lots of people around me and that i dnt have. im hearbroken in every sense of the word. ive always been a sensitive lad but im just so angry that i could be treated in this way i think its disgusting.
Thanks so much for commenting guys its really great to half such wonderful lads that are gaining nothing out of helping me but still do it. Im just? i dnt know ill have to do something with myself to feel better and not suicidal but thats going to take me quite a long time.

[MadMariner]

Terrible
Thats the attitude,  having read this thread I cannot add anything that hasn't already been said.  The replies have been some of the most heartfelt best advice anyone could have given you.    The people on here remind me of what is good in the world when all we read about are the dregs of society.
I wish you all the best and I know you will get over this and have a great life.
Take care mate
MM xxxxxxxx

[Aaron]

Terrible I am only 12 months or whatever older than you so i aint really going to say much.

I do think though that this, as has already been said might well be your blessing in disguise, using myself as an example but i would say that still upto now you have no idea what you really want out of life.
In the words of the streets "dry your eyes there is plenty more fish in the sea", believe me once you start doing the things you thought where not really for you this will go.
You say you aint got many mates well go out and meet some, you never got to know your ex by never talking or meeting new people i doubt?
I know you love your boxing so get to some shows, have a few drinks and instead of not doing what you THINK might not be for you give it a try and you will maybe see different.
There will always be girls/women about mate but your only young once, dont grow old regretting whats meant to be the best years of your life.
There is a wee fight happening in monaco in october, get onto flights and a hotel and live the dream!!!!!    

IQ all around here, some great posts.

[Alba]

Thank you so much guys, really god bless you all. Im going to pm you all to talk. Not one of you had to reply to me and im overwhelmed at all of you that have. Its so greatly appreciated and im forever grateful. I have been so tempted to try and contact her today because i just cant accept it. I am a good catholic lad and i really just wanted to settle down with her and live my life as best i could. ive still been going to work ( where i am now ) but im only there in body not soul. tbh guys i dnt really have any friends. all the friends i had where idiots and i fell away from them and as far as im aware they still are idiotic. Im just so deeply saddned that i cant even find the words to explain. I have absolutely nobody apart from you guys on here to talk to and thats why im most grateful. I once took a walk up to a forest and was going to attempt to do something id probably regret last year because we had quite a bad fall out and i knew guys were all over her when she went on holiday. she sounds like a bad girl but in alot of ways shes an absolute gem. and gorgeous too. she kind of looks like that Frankie Sandford haha. but she was comfertable with all my family and i would have never got serious with her in that way if i didnt think she was going to be the one.
ive decided to put the gloves back on i stopped boxing for a year there the last i fought i won a very one sided UD at light-welter ive since put on 2 stone im now 12 but im not fat at all. i was kind of like a paul williams at light welter because im just about 6ft wish i had williams talent though haha.when i fight next im going to go up to welter and see what happens. first ive got a stone and a half to come off. ill be going back into full training on sunday. ill need luck haha.
i just need lots of people around me and that i dnt have. im hearbroken in every sense of the word. ive always been a sensitive lad but im just so angry that i could be treated in this way i think its disgusting.
Thanks so much for commenting guys its really great to half such wonderful lads that are gaining nothing out of helping me but still do it. Im just? i dnt know ill have to do something with myself to feel better and not suicidal but thats going to take me quite a long time.

that is it lad ,keep your chin up mate !drop me a line !

[Havoc A]

Thank you so much guys, really god bless you all. Im going to pm you all to talk. Not one of you had to reply to me and im overwhelmed at all of you that have. Its so greatly appreciated and im forever grateful. I have been so tempted to try and contact her today because i just cant accept it. I am a good catholic lad and i really just wanted to settle down with her and live my life as best i could. ive still been going to work ( where i am now ) but im only there in body not soul. tbh guys i dnt really have any friends. all the friends i had where idiots and i fell away from them and as far as im aware they still are idiotic. Im just so deeply saddned that i cant even find the words to explain. I have absolutely nobody apart from you guys on here to talk to and thats why im most grateful. I once took a walk up to a forest and was going to attempt to do something id probably regret last year because we had quite a bad fall out and i knew guys were all over her when she went on holiday. she sounds like a bad girl but in alot of ways shes an absolute gem. and gorgeous too. she kind of looks like that Frankie Sandford haha. but she was comfertable with all my family and i would have never got serious with her in that way if i didnt think she was going to be the one.
ive decided to put the gloves back on i stopped boxing for a year there the last i fought i won a very one sided UD at light-welter ive since put on 2 stone im now 12 but im not fat at all. i was kind of like a paul williams at light welter because im just about 6ft wish i had williams talent though haha.when i fight next im going to go up to welter and see what happens. first ive got a stone and a half to come off. ill be going back into full training on sunday. ill need luck haha.
i just need lots of people around me and that i dnt have. im hearbroken in every sense of the word. ive always been a sensitive lad but im just so angry that i could be treated in this way i think its disgusting.
Thanks so much for commenting guys its really great to half such wonderful lads that are gaining nothing out of helping me but still do it. Im just? i dnt know ill have to do something with myself to feel better and not suicidal but thats going to take me quite a long time.

Thats the attitude mate. Get yaself into an hard training camp and you will be too tired to think about her.

Get talking with the guys at ya gym, go out with ya work mates after work. Make things happen for yourself and things will fall into place. Its good you are still going to work as it will keep you sane. Believe me taking a day off right now would be bad for you.

You will do it mate, never stop believing.

[harty]

hi mate...just a note to say that i too thought id hit rock bottom..lost my wife...lost my 3 kids..lost my house.thought it couldnt get worse but lost my 2nd house due to financial probs.thought my kids would drift away.thought of turning to drink.....but the answer was to keep busy as leve said keep going to work and time is a great healer ..i promise..im now married again ....see my kids again..and have a lovely home...and my boxing trips....keep your chin up mate it will get better.

[jimjack]

Just read this whole thread and there are some really good posts on here, glad to see you have decided to get back into the boxing to give you something to focus on mate. Cant really add anything that hasnt already been said, but hopefully it has been a comfort knowing that almost everyone feels like that at some times. Just remember it is coming through the tough times that give you the strength of character that will define you for the rest of your life.
Now go get some skipping done that 21lbs aint gonna move on its own!

[waller]

Can't give any advice until I see pics of her.

[Ruby]

I went through a bad time 2 years ago, I was married to an absolute arsehole, and as a result lost far far too much weight, and was diagonised with severe stress, and TBH didnt know which way to turn.

I eventually found the strength to leave him.And since then both me and my kids have a far better life than we have ever done and are so much happier.I have now got my own place,a new job, and Ive also got a wonderful new fella.

So you see, as most people have already said on here, time is a good healer and I truly belive that . Just keep yourself busy and focus on the future.

[Terrible1989]

I just cant do this...

[Red]

I just cant do this...

hey, cause you can.

Do you work monday to friday?

[Terrible1989]

Sunday to wednesday 11 hour shifts get thursday friday saturday off. i just cant red shes my life. i cant take anymore hurt.

[Leve Lad]

Sunday to wednesday 11 hour shifts get thursday friday saturday off. i just cant red shes my life. i cant take anymore hurt.

Hey man the hurt will pass. Believe me, ive been there as have many others.

You gotta keep on keeping on 

Curtis Mayfield - Keep On Keeping On

[Alba]

U can mate,she was a part of your life but she's not now mate.it's going to time to accept that... Were do you live mate?

[Leve Lad]

Look at it this wat terrible1989.

You are twenty years old. You will probably live to 80+ years old. You have probably not even lived a quarter of you whole life and believe me you will soon forget your current troubles and have experienced things that will make you wonder why you ate yourself up so much about your current situation.

You have far too much life in front of you to worry about the life behind you. Focus on the future, not the past